Dating someone with different politics
Story watching is an effective way to get on someone’s radar without risking a public profession of interest by, say, liking a photo.
Young men and women I spoke to ranging from age 16 to 34 all said they consider Story watching a lightweight form of flirting or expression of interest if done by an available person with whom they have chemistry.
“A guy I’ve been off and on with forever never watches my Snapchat or Insta Stories unless we’re ‘talking’ again,” said Haley in Washington, D. “It’s become this signifier that he’s about to reach out if he starts watching my stuff, and I’ve found myself doing the same kind of thing.”Some men and women said they knew their relationship was doomed when their partner stopped watching their Stories.
When a relationship ends, it’s often expected that each party will give one another a mutual grace period where you don’t watch or engage with the other’s content, since post-breakup Story watching can feel invasive.Whether done consciously or unconsciously, it sends the message that you’re interested in what your significant other is thinking and doing.While social media validation used to come in the form of public expressions of approval like faves, hearts, and likes, now, it’s often distributed more privately—yet just as deliberately—in the form of Story watching.As Alana Levinson wrote in Splinter, “A love interest consuming your content is now as perfunctory as opening a door for a woman once was.”If you really cared about me, the theory goes, you’d care about what I’m up to. It’s easy to label people who care about this type of thing as shallow or narcissistic.There will always be those who say they don’t care if the person they date notices them online, and many people genuinely don't.