Japenese dating and marriage
If you confess and she/he says yes, you two could be considered a couple.
In America, it really depends on the person but I have never experienced this type of initiation.
Another thing that I noticed was that American men tend to pay for dates but Japanese men usually don’t.
I did the online dating many years ago and a couple of men say that it was getting too expensive for them to ask women out because even if you meet them just for a coffee, it quickly adds up.
For Americans, where the gender gap is 2-to-1 for long-term residence, the marriage gap is more than 5-to-1 in favor of men (1,088 to 201 marriages in 2014, and 1,127 to 199 in 2015).
If we go even further back to look historically at international marriages from 1965 to 2014, British grooms beat out British brides by a ratio of 12-to-1, while for the U. So the relatively closer ratios are, in fact, a recent correction.
The thing that I like about typical Japanese dating custom is that “kokuhaku” (confession) makes the start of relationships more simplified.
I don’t like having to wonder if my date is interested in being in a relationship with me, and dating isn’t very fun because of the games involved in the process.
The next time you're walking around in Tokyo, try this quick experiment: look for couples comprising a Western man and a Japanese woman, and count them. Now look for the opposite: Japanese men with Western women. If we look at official statistics for Japanese residents from Western countries (as of the 2016 census), men certainly outnumber women in Japan—by a ratio of almost 2-to-1 if we exclude short-term residents and diplomats (it's 3-to-2 if they're included).
By comparison, there were 50 British brides to Japanese men in 2014 and 44 in 2015.
This gives us a ratio of just under 5-to-1 in favor of men.
This isn’t a problem for Japanese men who usually will arrange a date at a very cheap cafe and still expect me to pay my share!
Anyways, these are the things that I have learned from dating men in America and these are very uniquely different experiences. Quite frankly I don’t think either of them is very effective.